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In preparing a book of etiquette for ladies, I would lay down as the first rule, "Do unto others as you would others should do to you." You can never be rude if you bear the rule always in mind, for what lady likes to be treated rudely? True Christian politeness will always be the result of an unselfish regard for the feelings of others, and though you may err in the ceremonious points of etiquette, you will never be impolite. Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of heart put into daily practice; there can be no _true_ politeness without kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility.
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βIn conversing with gentlemen, try to not fall into the too common practice of talking to them nothing but nonsense...β First published in 1876, Complete Etiquette for Ladies aimed to instruct English women of all ages and situations on the finer points of proper comportment in Victorian society. Penned by Samuel Orchart Beeton β husband of the renowned cookery writer Isabella β it offers a view of ideal feminine conduct at once strikingly familiar and charmingly antiquated. Resolving such troublesome issues as how to display good sense when shopping, avoid busy-body neighbours and deal with disappointed affections, it also issues stern warnings: a reputation might be lost by such simple improprieties as offering a gentleman an opinion on financial matters, uttering the word 'stomach' to anyone other than a physician, or wearing ribbons at the breakfast table.
Whether a woman is a contractor, a stay-at-home mother, or a high-powered attorney, the suggestions in How to Be a Lady will cause others to think "Wow! She's got it all together!" If a lady is on a diet, she does not speak of it at the table A lady never eats a meal while behind the wheel of a car A lady makes it a point to know the names of the teams playing in the Super Bowl The roles women play in society today are drastically different than they were 25 years ago, and some of the rules are different as well. "Somewhere along the way," says the author, "the art of being a lady was lost in the shuffle to become a self-sufficient, straight shooting, agressive survivor in the world . . . Some of us lost sight of the rewards that being a lady could bring." How to Be a Lady is a practical book of etiquette that is not snobbish, boring, or intimidating. Designed for a new century, it addresses such issues as how to dress for the workplace, the importance of knowing self-defense, and how to deal with divorced friends and unmarried couples.
In preparing a book of etiquette for ladies, I would lay down as the first rule, "Do unto others as you would others should do to you." You can never be rude if you bear the rule always in mind, for what lady likes to be treated rudely? True Christian politeness will always be the result of an unselfish regard for the feelings of others, and though you may err in the ceremonious points of etiquette, you will never be impolite. Politeness, founded upon such a rule, becomes the expression, in graceful manner, of social virtues. The spirit of politeness consists in a certain attention to forms and ceremonies, which are meant both to please others and ourselves, and to make others pleased with us; a still clearer definition may be given by saying that politeness is goodness of heart put into daily practice; there can be no _true_ politeness without kindness, purity, singleness of heart, and sensibility.